Choose To Be Reliable...

Today, I am bringing forward a topic that has been on my mind and is something which has become normal to many.  It is a truth that will hopefully make many people take a good look in the mirror.  I am finding that many people these days are pretty unreliable!  Whether it’s some family members or some friends…I experience disingenuous people often whether intentional or not.  I don’t understand why people feel the need to tell you they will do something and then…just NOT DO IT!  Shouldn’t this be an exception to the rule and not the rule?  Why commit if you cannot follow through?  It’s okay to say you cannot do something.  It’s okay to say no, but to say you’ll do something and not do it is…unnecessary. This seems to be an epidemic in today’s world.  Many people in this world are becoming increasingly selfish and inconsiderate.  People do not follow through.  Perhaps, someone doesn’t call or text you back, doesn’t attend an event you are hosting, maybe they tell you they will meet up with you and never do, maybe they never rsvp to an invitation that has been sent, it could be that they don’t show up for special events in your life or they just don’t respond to messages you send…the list goes on. If I tell you I am going to call, I will call.  If I tell you I will get back with you, I get back with you.  If I tell you, I am coming over or coming to an event, I go.  I suppose my mom raised me to be respectful of others feelings and time…this is called courtesy and respect.  She taught me that if I commit to someone, I follow through on that commitment.  She taught me to be reliable.  I am baffled at the growing rate at which unreliability and thoughtlessness occur.  I get it, everyone is busy!  EVERYONE!!!  I am extremely busy with full-time work, three kids, family and my daily commute.  Being busy is always the excuse…but, it is not a good enough excuse to make commitments and not keep them.  Why not just be honest from the start?  Wouldn’t that be so much easier?   Or, if you don’t follow through on a commitment, just apologize for it and acknowledge it so the other person knows you are sorry.  So many people go on acting as if they’ve never bailed on their commitment.  I guess if you act as if it didn’t happen, maybe it is easier for you?  By the way, it still happened.  My husband has always told me, “don’t have any expectations of others and stop stretching yourself thin to be there for others because when it boils down to it, your feelings are always hurt because they don’t come through for you when it’s their turn”.  Wow!  It has taken me years to come close to accepting this truth.  I still struggle with it today and that leads to major disappointments.  The toughest pill to swallow is when it’s close family members or friends who let you down.  It’s pretty simple really…the courtesy concept…if you cannot do something or have no intentions on doing something, don’t say you will.  If everyone would just be honest up front, there would be no issue on either side.  Nobody would get their feelings hurt and you wouldn’t have to play charades.  Again, I know that people have things come up from time to time, but when it becomes a habitual behavior…it’s a huge problem.  The issue is that I still have expectations of others.  The problem is I hold people accountable for their words and actions.  Maybe I am the problem?  I just try and consider the Golden Rule when dealing with others…how would I feel if someone did this to me?  Too many people today are overly saturated in self and are ”too busy” to consider anyone else and how they feel.  I think, just be like them, but I can’t!  Wouldn’t it be so much easier for people like me if I also became unreliable and nonchalant?  It is not in me to do it.  I refuse to be that person.  So, the entire point to this post is...BE CONSIDERATE OF OTHERS and TREAT THEM THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED.