Learning everything you ever had and thought you had is a
lie is one of the toughest places I’ve ever been in. Learning that your husband is not the man he
has claimed to be for the past 17 years is a hard pill to swallow. Finding out your husband is having an ongoing
affair is one of the most paralyzing and helpless feelings I have ever
known. Since we agreed to try and put
our marriage back together two years ago, my husband has been carrying on a relationship
with another woman. Typically, when a
married man decides to work on things with his wife, it would seem that he
would truly give the marriage a fair chance by disconnecting with his female “friend”. For two years, my gut has been telling me
that something was going on. Perhaps,
the hidden daily phone calls between the two of them, the hidden messaging apps
on his phone, her phone number listed under a male friends name in his
contacts, the fact that she was spotted wearing his clothing in a picture, the
picture showing that they attended a football game together and rode in his
car, the lack of intimacy, the way he slept on the couch for months on end, my
husband going out and getting drunk with this woman, the woman’s mother
leaving a voicemail message on his cell phone professing her daughters love for
my husband, my husband introducing my daughter
to this woman and/or my husband announcing that the other woman and her daughter
will be going on a trip planned just for him and one of your children and that
they will be hanging out…maybe, these things throughout the past two years
should’ve been dead giveaways. I wanted
so desperately to believe my husband when he said, “it isn’t what it seems” and
“she’s just a friend”. The funny thing
is…IT’S EVERYTHING IT SEEMED! He just doesn’t
want to be known as a cheater, but HE IS A CHEATER! Not only has this married man dismissed my
feelings and completely disregarded my concerns about this other woman, he has
now brought her around my child. What
baffles me is that he never stopped to consider HER! How do you bring this trash, the very woman
who is breaking up your family and ripping apart your daughter’s world around
her…to meet her???!!! How do you do
that? To me, those are the clear actions
of a cheater…selfishness and thinking with anything, but your head. Then, to think that this woman has the
audacity to continue hanging around your husband after you have reached out to
her and asked her stop. This woman comes
around your child and introduces herself as if it is normal?!! This is pure evil.
Why stay in the marriage if what you want is something
else? Why be intimate with me when you
were? Why buy me jewelry? Why go on trips with me? Why?!
I know why! The answer is plain
and simple…to look good. The only thing
this man cares about is looking good to the world. He wants to come across as the victim as the
one who has done everything right. That
is his story and I am certain he will tell it.
So far, she is buying it. No
telling the lies he has told her about us.
There is more just like her out there who will believe it, but I am done
believing the disgusting lies.
The sad part is the woman he has chosen…she is has a criminal
record and she is a former addict. She
has been arrested four different times for shoplifting and drugs. How has he stooped this low? The only thing I can do now is set him
free. Now, they can be together
openly. I will no longer be a part of
their charade. The charade is up. I wish them the best of luck…they actually
deserve each other. I will be so much
better off without this toxicity in my life.
I am done mourning…I have been doing this for two years. I am done trying. I am done begging. I am done wondering. I am done.
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