What Does the Other Woman Look Like?

When you think about the other woman…the adulteress, the cheater, the destroyer of families and marriages…who do you picture in your mind?  What does that other woman look like to you?  Is she obvious in her tactics?  Is she someone promiscuous in her ways?  Does she dress overly flirty?  Does she pounce on your husband and seek him out like her prey?  Sure, she may be those things.  However, she may be someone very different than that on the surface.  Maybe she is less direct and less assuming.  Perhaps, she is sly and cunning in nature…the ultimate deceiver.  What if she is a single mother looking for a father figure for her child(ren) and comes to view your husband as the perfect solution to her worries and someone who is the complete opposite of her ex?  She uses the fact that she is a “good mother” or “single mother” to win your husbands sympathy.  What if she believes your husband could offer her some financial stability and a hope for a better future…something she has never tasted?  What if she is a woman with a sob story about how her husband has done her wrong and uses that to gain your husbands sympathy?  What if she is someone who “just wants to be friends” with your husband?  What if she shares in some of the same interests as your husband or changes like a chameleon taking on your husbands interests, hobbies and ideals?  Maybe she begins to read books he reads or like sports teams he likes. What if she is the fun one that can let loose and go for drinks while the respectable and faithful wife is at home taking care of his children and home?  What if, she doesn’t come on strong at first?  What if she starts by building up the very woman she seeks to destroy…only to seem as if she is a good person with no ulterior motive?  Whatever she is…whoever she is, I am certain she isn’t as innocent as she pretends.

The adulterous woman is a morally deficient person from the ground up.  There is something within her lacking which causes her to knowingly pursue a married man with a family.  She doesn’t respect the marriage covenant nor does she respect herself.  She is incapable of true love.  She will walk through fire to get what she wants while wreaking havoc on many lives.  She is a person who disregards others even the man she is after not looking at the long-term consequences he faces by having an affair and destroying his family.  She cannot see that the foundation of a relationship based on a lie is doomed from the start.  She is one who seeks to fulfill her own needs, desires and wants even when there are millions of single men out there for her to sink her talons in to even men who could offer her the same benefits as the married man she pursues.  The problem is, she is too lazy, cowardly and morally void.  She is calculated like the master she serves.  She is evil like the master she serves.  Like her master, she will win for a moment, but that victory will be short lived.  If she is morally deficient in other areas of her life, she has no guilt in having an affair with a married man.  Maybe she is a drug addict, maybe she is a thief, maybe she is a habitual homewrecker and maybe she pawns her child(ren) off on her parents while she is out prowling for a married man.

The sad part is, she is not alone in the adultery.  It takes two.  Your husband, if weak, can and will fall prey to one of her many tactics.  She may not be attractive, she may be trashy, she may be married too, she may be an addict, etc., but none of that will matter.  He won’t be able to see her for who she truly is.  He will overlook her evil ways choosing to see only what he wants to see.  He will flush all that is good and all that he could have down the drain for this lie.  Sometimes, your husband can be saved from this fall, but other times, he doesn’t want to be saved.  Once he begins taking on her form and behaviors, he is likely too far gone.  He is consumed with deceit just as she is and has no regard for his family and the damage he is causing. Even though you will come to know what the adulteress looks like, he will live in denial as to her character.  The truth becomes relative.  He too morphs into an adulterer.